Dr. Christy Wise

Guest Bio: 

Dr. Christy Wise has conducted over 20 years of breakthrough transformational counseling. While on hiatus from clinical practice, today Dr. Christy is most recognized for her work as a highly sought out Coach & Keynote Speaker. As an experienced Transformational Coach, Dr. Christy’s approach is both compassionate & goal-orientated. She works with clients to help them achieve their sex & intimacy goals with their partners.

Episode Summary:

Dr. Christy Wise is a transformational coach that helps couples find deeper connection with their partner. With the divorce rate being so high, Dr. Christy is needed more than ever to help keep our egos in check, to refocus the conversation from what’s best for “me” to what’s best for “we.” Find out more on this week’s episode!

Title: Going From Good to Great in a Relationship — Dr. Christy Wise

Subtitle: Break your bad relationship habits to connect deeper with your partner.

Key Takeaways:

• There’s an epic rate of divorces going on.
• People used to go to a coach or counseling when something was wrong or broken.
• However, there is a shift. People are seeking additional help not because things are wrong, they just want it to be better.
• How do we build an intense connection with our partners?
• Christy explains what she means when sometimes life is like ‘pee in the bathwater.’
• No matter what you do, if there’s pee in the bathwater, pouring more water on it will not make the problem better.
• If you’re upset with your partner, try to be at a 4‒6 scale when you begin to communicate. That’s the most effective place to be.
• Here’s a fun exercise for couples to do: Pretend to be a child for just a moment and go out and play.
• Remember to always go back to the “we” above all else. We are in this together.
• The fights are meant to move us forward.
• No matter what the relationship is, you have to work on it.
• If you’re having a really bad fight, go take off your shoes and go stand in the grass.
• What do you do if one person is more dominant in the relationship?
• As people, we don’t always know what we want. Dr. Christy helps couples articulate some of their deep desires and core feelings.
• It’s amazing what happens when you write down what it is that you want!
• Sometimes we look for all the reasons why we can’t, but what happens if we can?
• Remember, we deserve more. We deserve more out of life. Your relationship really can go from good to great.
• Christy has a free quiz for you! She also has a self-paced course for couples.
• What are some of the destructive behaviors we take on that end up breaking our relationships down?
• Don’t be afraid to get the support you need. Don’t wait till it’s too late and you’re fighting!

Resources for a Younger Lifestyle:

Dr. Robyn Benson’s Free Youthful Aging eGuide

FREE GIFT: Robynbenson.com/gift

Connect with Dr. Christy: Life-sauce.com & Take the free quiz here: Life-sauce.com/relationship-passion-quiz-home

Quotes:

“We have to be great before we can be great in our relationships.”

“Our egos can screw up some of our most beautiful relationships just by those old patterns from way back when. And our need to be right, the need to be seen, and the need to be heard, can have us revert back to infantile ways.”

“Fights are meant to move us forward. Just like exercising muscles, you’ve got to have a breakdown if you’re going to break through.”